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You will cry or feel so so bad after reading this, but try to hold onto yourself cause life itself is a lesson.

Kayode has never for his life know what peace is. He can only define it but don’t know what it means because he has never experienced it for once in life. He is a very brilliant boy and his dream is to be the first doctor in his town. But unfortunately, he hardly moves forward in life, such that his entire classmate left him behind because he always fails his WAEC Examination.

Each time he receives his result, even the people he teaches in the examination hall will make all their papers but he’s will be F9 parallel (failure). More than 5 times, both his WAEC and NECO are always F9 in his entire subject. Even there was a particular year he refused to register for the two exams, but that year, his F9 parallel Result was still sent to him without writing or registering for the exam.

Later he decided to register for a special center where he clears all the papers. And that year he receives two results, his normal F9 result and the special center result where he made all the paper. He spent more than 8 years in the university because of carrying over. Whenever he write his paper, the Lecturer will not see his answer script, and they knew he’s a very brilliant boy, one day his departmental lecturer held a meeting because of him, and they plan to help him pass all his paper, even if his answer script disappears as usual.

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They knew its spiritual battle. He graduated at the age of 30. He went for his youth service and came back, seeking for Job, but no Job. He has to travel back to his village to continue his farm work. his mother younger sister likes him very much because she’s barren, and Kayode see her as his mother too.

One day one of his best friend who came home to visit his parent and saw him with a basket on his head, selling oranges just to earn a living, he was shocked to see him in that state, then his friend decided to take him with him to Abuja. But the following week his friend chases him out of his house. 15 million naira was missing from his friend master bedroom and the money was found in Kayode wardrobe, he said he never knew anything about it, but no one could believe him, he chases him out and as he was walking thinking and crying, a car knocked him down and he fainted, then he was quickly rushed to the hospital where he was treated.

The man who knocked him down was a devoted man of God, the Lord showed him the case of Kayode, the very day her mother gave birth to him, the woman who bathed her, has stolen his glory and it’s hung it on a tree in the world of darkness. The Evangelist followed Kayode to his village to question his mother. Who was the first to bath your child the very day you gave birth to her, is my younger sister, she said, they went to her house.

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The evangelist went to her house and commanded her in the name of Jesus to give back the glory of Kayode to Kayode because he’s in need of his glory. This woman went straight to the wall and brings back the sponge, and the sponge is as wet as the day she first uses it on the boy. That was what she used to tie down his glory, Kayode fainted because this is the woman she took as her mother.

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Curbing The Menace Of Social Vices

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Social vices is an act of indiscipline. They are those acts and conditions that violate the societal norms and values. They are habits or behaviours of immoral activities such as cultism, robbery, ritual killing, kidnapping, smoking and drug peddling etc.
The word “vices” came from a Latin word “Vitium” meaning defect or failing.
It is rare to find a school or an institution void of social vices. This
depicts that they are found in educational cantersprimary, secondary and tertiary and the environment around us. Vices are common among young males and females, examples include prostitution, indecent dressing, robbery, cultism, pocket picking, drug addiction, examination malpractice, hooliganism thuggery, gambling, Smoking, premarital sexual activities and rape. Recently it has developed to militancy and terrorism among others social vices are bad traits, unhealthy and negative behaviours that are against the morality of a society.

Peer Group. This is the major cause of youth involvement in
vices. Students (youth) spend more time with their friends at school or at home. Due to their weak nature and tender age, they can easily be influenced. Children have high level of curiosity to learn, to have fun and practice new things, since they are born with tabular rasa thus, making them smoke, agree with the proverb that says “show me your friends, and I will tell who you are “because it shows the significance of friends and how they influence lives. A child tends to behave like his or her friend so be labelled as cowards, JJCS, uncivilised or crude. A child who move with children that loves academics can be like them in no time and cannot be lured to the short-cuts to success such as examination malpractices. Being a virgin which was once a thing of pride has now turned to object of ridicule among youth. An innocent girl will want to
experiment what her friends do and may be pushed into sexual activities in tender age. A youth who does not smoke Indian hemp will want to try it to prove that he can belong, rather than being called a Jew man. And such trend goes on and on. Unfortunately if luck run out of such novices
they go hey wire in life.

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Lack of parental responsibility: Another factor that leads to vices is negligence by the parents or broken home. Most children that engage themselves in vices are from broken homes.

Lack of parental care, supervision and attention can make a child
engage in social vices. Children from the permissive and uninvolved
parenting styles fall mostly into these traps. They move with wrong
people, their movement are not queried, their academic progress is not being followed up. Freedom to do anything without being probed affect children negatively. Negligent of parents can make the wards turn to their friends for love, emotions, care, advice that can lure them into deadly acts. An abandoned girl looks up to an opposite sex for love and affection, vice versa. Some maids, house helps, family members and
neighbours who are always around the children in the absent of parents can introduce these to children like sexually, warn and threaten them not to tell anyone. Even if the bold ones are determined to confide in their parents, they (the parents) may
be too busy or occupied to listen and see through things.

This lack of indiscipline which interfere with the teaching and learning process, manifest itself in various ways including bullying, vandalism, alcoholic and substance
abuse, truancy, inability or
unwillingness to do homes works.

Causes of indiscipline in secondary schools in Nigeria to include authoritarian methods, bad staff behaviours, harsh schools rules, poor communication results, lack of adequate schools facilities, influence from home and society

FACTORS THAT NECESSİTATE INDISCIPLINE IN SCHOOL
Authoritarian metbod. According to Chandra Hawley (1996) This method of authoritarian is typical when a leader places firm limits and controls on the students. Students will often have assigned seats for the entire term. The desks are usually in straight rows and there are no deviations. Students must be in their seats at the beginning of the class and they frequently remain there throughout the period. This teacher rarely gives hall passes or recognizes excused absences. Students do not interrupt the teacher. In this method, since verbal exchange and discussion are discouraged, the authoritarian’s students do not have the opportunity to learn and, or practice communication skills This teacher prefers vigorous discipline and expects swift obedience Failure to obey the teacher usually results in detention or trip to the principal’s office.

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In this class room, students need to follow directions and not ask why. Students in this class are likely to be reluctant to initiate activity, since they may feel powerless. Such students easily get subscribed to truancy and other forms ofindiscipline. At the extreme, the authoritarian teacher gives no indication that he or she cares for the students. Mr Doe is a good example of an authoritarian teacher. His students receive praise and encouragement infrequently, if at all. Also, he makes no effort to organise activities such as field trips etc.

Bad staff bebaviour: These are behaviours that work against the
progress of the school authority and its running. Behaviours such as being reluctant to the duties assigned as a teacher, the sour apple as a teacher, the sour apple, which are staff that bad- mouth the school using negative applications, they also poison the minds of other staff in their actions. Another bad bchaviours is eyeservice, which is the trickish way of doing work for just lip services and instant encomiums. The disappearing act is also typical of bad behavioural staff. Others are illegal activities in the school such as defying a young female studenus by male teacher.

Harsh scbool rules. This looks synonymous to the authoritariarn
teacher, but in this case the whole school is affected. It tends to be too firm and control prone where even games are rarely common and students become timid, but become undisciplined because of lack of civilization. Homosexuality and lesbianism become rampart because of harsh school rules. Inferiority complex and introverts are mostly developed among such school srudents.

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Lack of adequate scbool Facilities. This is a situation whereby a school lack all necessary learning materials such as equipped laboratories, library and other needful that enhance learning or the things that make learning casy. The lack ofit may make students to divert their attention to other acts due to because of it.

Poor communication A situation where there is a poor communication between the teachers and the students, the students are likely to be un-oriented, as such, they indulge in wrong acts because they are uninformed e.tc. The students need a good and upgraded communication skills for assimilation

Results: Result is one thing that encourages or discourages a student in the school. A poor result is capable of making a student divert his or her attention from the supposed learning exercise into playing of truants and other acts of indiscipline.

Influence from home and society. The environment and home a
student come from can be a factor that could lead to indiscipline and insubordination. A child from an indiscipline home and society will always display acts of indiscipline as it is very contagious and persuasive in character. You cannot offer what you do not have, simple!.

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How to Overcome Fear, Guilt and Low Self Esteem

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Before I begin, I want to make it clear that I am only speaking of the stronghold/behavioral aspect of fear, guilt, etc. There ARE spirits of guilt, fear, worthlessness, etc. that can also be a factor and must be addressed (and driven out). However, if all we do is address the spirits but leave the strongholds in place, they are liable to return. This teaching deals strictly with the behavioral piece of the puzzle.

Feelings do not necessarily speak truth. If you feel guilty, it does not mean that you are guilty. Many times, feelings merely tell us what is going on in our thought life (or what we are really believing). If we think we are guilty, there will be feelings of guilt as the fruit of those thoughts or beliefs. It’s sort of like feeling a hot stove; feelings are meant to help alert us of something that is wrong. Feelings should not be ignored, but properly interpreted. For example, if you feel guilty, don’t start thinking “Oh, it must be true. I need to go confess my sins again and go try to dot every i and cross every t.” That is letting feelings tell us what to do, and feelings can be (and often are) wrong.

When we begin to feel guilty, we need to instead get to the root of the problem and address it with God’s Word. What does God’s Word say about our guilt? It tells us that if we confess our sin and forsake it, we are forgiven and cleansed of whatever kind of unrighteousness that we’ve committed. When we choose to believe that over how we feel, then our feelings will begin to change because they are merely the fruit of our thoughts and beliefs.
 In this case, our feelings were wrong because our belief was wrong.Remember, feelings are just the fruit of our thoughts and beliefs. If we feel wrong, then it wouldn’t hurt to stop and ask ourselves what we believe. Do we believe that when a man confesses his sin and believes upon Christ, that he is forgiven? Or do we, in the back of our minds, wonder if we’ve sinned too badly, or if we need to do something before we can be forgiven? Our feelings can be a great revealer of what we are really believing under the surface.

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It is important to be balanced when dealing with our feelings. I don’t think it’s healthy to completely ignore our feelings, but I can assure you that it is not healthy to go by our feelings either. The key is to learn how to discern what our feelings are really telling us, and then get to the root of the problem. Feelings of guilt, for example, do not necessarily mean that we are indeed guilty, but rather that our beliefs are not rooted and grounded on God’s Word like they ought to be.

A dirty conscience should not be ignored, but rather investigated. False guilt is an indication of a faulty belief. Is a clean conscience important according to God’s Word? Yes!

o with that said, I believe it is important to have a clean conscience. But we can only have that clean conscience when we stand firm on God’s Word and believe what it really says about the forgiveness of our sins. When we truly believe that the Blood of Christ has paid the full price for our failures, only then can we have a truly clean conscience. As long as we think that we’ve messed up too badly, or need to do something before we can be forgiven, we will live with a dirty conscience. That is because we don’t truly believe we are forgiven, and when we don’t believe that we’re forgiven, how on earth can we expect to feel like it? We can’t!

Fear is another feeling which is completely unnecessary in the life of a believer. How do we know this? God’s Word tells us that perfect love casts out all fear. For those who think that fear is a natural and unavoidable feeling, God’s Word tells us that “He who fears has not been made perfect in love.”

Got fears? Don’t believe them, but rather seek to be established and made perfect in God’s great love for you. That will dispel those fears. What most people do is go by their feelings and believe them, rather than seeing them as a warning that something isn’t right in their beliefs or thought lives. That is where many well intending Christians go in the ditch. Another ditch is to completely ignore those feelings (or warning signs), and do nothing about them. The question I ask you is, what are you doing about those feelings? Are you going by what you feel as if it were truth? Or are you asking yourself, “What am I thinking or believing that may not be aligned with God’s Word?”

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Fear, like false guilt, is a result of believing something other than God’s Word. False guilt is when we choose to believe an imagination that has risen itself against the knowledge of God (see 2 Corinthians 10:4-5), even though God’s Word assures us that when we confess our sins, He is faithful to forgive us of any sort of unrighteousness that we’ve committed.

Now of course, not all feelings should be interpreted as a fault in our thoughts or beliefs. There are times when then Holy Spirit will give a person an uneasy feeling about a situation (discernment), or maybe a burden to pray over somebody that we normally wouldn’t pray over. These types of feelings are used by God as a means to communicate with our spirits, and should not be ignored.

However, what I am talking about in this teaching is feelings of low self-esteem, fear, false guilt, shame, etc. Feelings along these lines are spelled out clearly in God’s Word as being completely unnecessary for the children of God. What these types of feelings (false guilt, fear, etc.) have in common is that they are rooted in a belief or imagination that has risen itself against the knowledge of God (what is spoken clearly in His Word).

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I really liked this extremely charming person while I was in school yet I couldn’t let him know since I wasn’t the just a single, After I graduated,I did my NYSC and began working,did I notice that things were so intense for me in light of the fact that my pay couldn’t deal with my major needs..my organization sent me as a delegate for a class held in Lagos here and that is the place I met Caleb, a exceptionally attractive and provocative person.

Caleb was one of the patrons and he promptly succumbed to me and approached me for my number after the seminar. We turned out to be close and I should admit that he diminished my monetary bankruptcy.

He endeavored to lay down with me yet I declined on the grounds that I was a virgin and guaranteed God to rest just with my husband…for two years,we dated and he turned out to be so attached to me,Caleb cherished me so much that he got me a vehicle worth 2.1million on my birthday,built a little house for my family and furthermore leased a lavish loft for me on the island…I began living so huge due to Caleb…he influenced me to leave my place of employment after he opened an extremely huge grocery store/restorative store for me on the mainland.

One decisive hot afternoon,I was attempting to utilize the ATM,but was having heaps of issues endeavoring to make withdrawal,and because of this,the individuals on the long line were exceedingly irritated and never saved any chance to yell at me, A young fellow approached me and offered to help,I was unmistakably shaken so I permitted him and we succeeded.
As I was tied in with going into my car,i figured out how to take a gander at the person,and to my surprise,it was a similar person I really liked 2-3years back..he didn’t remember me though..I expressed gratitude toward him and he didn’t falter to ask for my number which I didn’t dither to give…that evening,he called me and we talked for long.

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Things became extremely extraordinary between us the emotions in me began developing back, I attempted my absolute best to oppose him,but it got most exceedingly bad and that was the place the entire issues began.

I swung to a liar unexpectedly that on Valentine’s day, Caleb educated me toward the beginning of the day and disclosed to me that he will lift me up by 5pm…two hours later,Somto called and said he will lift me up by 6pm, I needed to reject him,but I was so unconscious when I said yes to him…I was extremely so helpless,well, I figured out how to pull it off and met Caleb by 5pm and Somto by 7pm.

I was at the airplane terminal going for the Election when I saw Somto loading up the equivalent plane,well,did I notice that I educated in my state Enugu and Somto was likewise from there…on the night prior to the Election, Somto called to reveal to me that his family went on a get-away and he was all alone,so I went to see him that night,we talked for long until we began kissing.

We were going too quick when he ceased me and inquired as to whether I’m extremely certain I need do this,I gestured in the affirmative,he conveyed me on his laps to the room and gave me a long difficult s*x throughout the night till morning which was so excruciating yet a piece of me appreciated it,I woke up and was searching for my phone,I went to the living room and saw it and understood that Caleb has called me 24 times..well,I begun wailing and Called him back..he yelled at me and kept nagging.

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I figured out how to deceive him that my battery subsided which made him quiet down…I felt so guilty,I left Somto’s home against every one of his endeavors to stop me….after I threw my votes and returned home that morning, Somto went to my home and began crying that I am offending him and he cherishes me so much,I needed to disclose to him that I am seeing someone I couldn’t..right there in my room,he s*xed me again..this proceeded till I left back to Lagos.

I began maintaining a strategic distance from Somto. To cut long story short,I didn’t have a clue how Somto figured out how to know my house,the day he came, Caleb was around,I figured out how to drag him outside and misled him that Caleb is my cousin and I don’t need him to have the wrong impact on me,I guaranteed to visit him later that evening….he left and when I went inside,Caleb asked me whom he was,and I disclosed to him that was my cousin too……so that night,I went to see Somto,we talked for long,to my surprise,Caleb found us and asked me for what good reason I came to see my cousin in a bar.

I asked him what he was doing there,he said he didn’t purchase my story prior so he observed and tailed me since I have been acting so peculiar of late…. Somto then again got so irate and instructed him to take his hands off his better half… Caleb revealed to Somto that he (Somto) is only my side nigga since he has known me for long and we are on an arrangement to get married.

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Somto disclosed to him that in the event that he is only my side nigga,how come he (Somto)was the person who despoiled me.Caleb quickly separated his lips with an overwhelming punch..that was the point at which they began fighting,the securities had the capacity to deal with the circumstance and Caleb advised Somto to watch his back.

Caleb sent some terrible young men to murder Somto yet one of the young men was gotten and mobbed after Somto was shot the Guy took the police to Caleb’s home as the person who enlisted them and Caleb was arrested Right now, Somto is combating with his life,while Caleb is in police custody
I don’t have the foggiest idea what to do.

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