DO YOU KNOW THERE IS A WAY OUT OF YOUR ADDICTIONS, THIS ARTICLE WILL HELP YOU
Addictions are something that plagues many people today, whether addiction to food, sex, drugs, alcohol, smoking, spending, masturbation, porn, etc. Some inexperienced deliverance ministers might go after a spirit of addiction, which may bring freedom, but more often than not, it doesn’t bring lasting freedom. Many times there is a root that needs to be pulled up, alongside casting out any residing spirits that are holding the person in bondage to the addiction. Getting to the root of the addiction is the key to bringing a person lasting genuine freedom. I am going to address the most common roots to addictions, and hopefully give you an idea of how this particular type of bondage works so that you can minister lasting freedom to those caught up in this type of bondage.
We are all created with a basic need to be loved. God created us to both give and receive love, but though damaged emotions, our capacity to receive love can be dramatically hindered. Ignorance of God’s love will also hinder us from receiving the great and glorious love that He has for us. The root of most addictive behaviors is a lack of love being received by that person. Many of us have been damaged emotionally by rejection, abandonment, abuse, etc., and thereby our capacity to receive love has been reduced. Only an emotionally healthy person is capable of both giving and receiving love as God intended.
Self-worth issues can hinder love
Self-worth issues are rooted in believing that we are not worthy or deserve to be loved. When we believe that we are unlovable, we will unconsciously reject any love that comes our way. We won’t believe the love, because we believe in our hearts that we are not worthy. Self worth issues are all rooted in our failing to see who we really are in Christ.
If you walked into a gallery of world-class art, and pointed to a painting, saying, “That is the ugliest thing I’ve ever seen! Who painted that??” Now let’s say the artist was standing right next to you. How do you think that would make Him feel? Do you realize we are the artwork of God, a special painting crafted together by the master painter? Do you think it brings Him honor when we look down on ourselves? We need to stop putting down what God has made.
Many times we have self-unforgiveness issues because we blame ourselves for something, or we’ve done something we deeply regret, and we simply cannot let it go. We need to realize that Jesus has forgiven us of all our failures, and we need to start seeing ourselves as forgiven. Otherwise, we’re denying the work of Christ in our life! If God forgave you, and you’re still beating yourself up, then you don’t really believe what Jesus did for you. It’s that simple!
Just as we must forgive others (see Matthew 18:21-35), we need to forgive ourselves just the same. Self-hate has been known to be the root behind diseases such as lupus and crohn’s disease, as well as other auto-immune diseases. We need to stop holding ourselves accountable for that which Jesus has set us free from.
If we want to be in faith, we need to BELIEVE what Jesus did for us, and part of that believing is seeing ourselves as forgiven and clothed with the righteousness of God, which is upon all who believe in the finished work of Christ. Without faith, it is impossible to please God (see Hebrews 11:6), so if you want to please God, start taking the finished work of the cross seriously, and begin to see yourself as forgiven, washed clean, and clothed in the righteousness of God. For the righteousness (right standing with God) is upon all who believe:
“Even the righteousness of God which is by faith of Jesus Christ unto all and upon all them that believe…” (Romans 3:22 KJV)
Unforgiveness is rooted in a lack of realization of how much God has forgiven us, and therefore we’re not thankful for the steep and terrible price that Jesus paid for our own failures. This is why it is so important to mediate on what Jesus did for us, until it transforms our heart. The message of Jesus’ work for us is what causes faith to arise in our hearts and transforms us from the inside out (read Romans 10:8-17).
Learning to see yourself as God sees you, and forgive yourself because you want to please God and be in faith and be thankful for what Jesus did for you, is the biggest step in overcoming self-worth issues. Of course, there are spirits that may need to be driven out as well, such as self-hate, guilt, condemnation, etc.
Receiving the love God has for us
When it comes to God’s love for us, that’s very obvious, considering how He loves even the sinner so much that Jesus came to die for them. Anybody who knows the message of the cross, has some knowledge of God’s love for us. However, many times, we blame God for our problems, and so we don’t believe the love that He has for us. Not only do we blame Him for our problems, many times we think that God gave us the sickness or problem in our life to teach us something. Nothing could be further from the truth! Jesus tells us clearly who came to kill, steal, and destroy, and who came so that we could have life and have it in abundance.
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10 KJV)
If we are going to receive the love that God has for us, we need to get our thinking straitened out. He’s not the one behind our problems, but rather Jesus paid the full price so that we can be forgiven all our sins, both physically and emotionally healed, and blessed.
“When the even was come, they brought unto him many that were possessed with devils: and he cast out the spirits with his word, and healed all that were sick: That it might be fulfilled which was spoken by Esaias the prophet, saying, Himself took our infirmities, and bare our sicknesses.” (Matthew 8:16-17 KJV)
Look at how good God’s heart is toward mankind! Not only did Jesus heal them, but He proved the blessings of the covenant we have with Him today concerning our healing and deliverance. Isn’t He good toward us? The reason why bad things happen to us, is because we live in a fallen world that is under the control of the evil one. It’s not God’s fault. He loves you. Jesus died for you.
Settling the fact that God loves you and is good toward you is crucial to restoring your God-given capacity to receive His love. If you can’t receive His love, then you need to stop and ask yourself four questions:
- Am I blaming God for anything bad that happened to me?
Have I been emotionally wounded in such a way that it is hindering my ability to freely receive love as God intended me to?
Do I have knowledge and revelation of how much God loves me? Do I have a solid Biblical understanding of how I am loved with the same kind of love that the Father has for Jesus?
Is there a self-worth issue that makes me feel unworthy to be loved?
Settling these issues lays a foundation for breaking free from the power of addictions. You must repair the damage and faulty thinking which hinders your ability to receive the love that God has for you.
How do you know if you are receiving God’s love or if it’s hindered? If you are not passionate about Jesus, then somewhere your ability to receive His love is hindered.
If you are living a life without receiving God’s love in your heart on a daily bases, you are missing out on the most fulfilling life you can have here on this earth. To know God’s love, which surpasses all understanding (see Philippians 4:7), dispels all our fears and gives us a sense of peace and joy that we could never otherwise know.
“And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” (1 John 4:16-18 KJV)
What exactly is an addiction?
An addiction is formed when we try to use something other than God, to meet our need to be loved. When our ability to receive God’s love into our hearts is hindered, we will feel like something is missing, and seek to fill that void with something else. When that thing, whatever it might be, fills that void, we grow to love it because it’s meeting a need. Over time, we establish a relationship with that thing, and when it comes time to depart, it’s like breaking up a relationship. That’s why addictions are so addicting; we’ve relied on that thing to meet a need and we’ve established a relationship with it. Now when it’s time to break up the love, it isn’t so easy to say goodbye.
One common problem that we see when we try to deal with addictions, is where we give up one addition successfully, only to find ourself in another addiction. We might quit drinking only to start overeating, for example. We might think we’re finding victory, but all we’re really doing is trading one addiction for another addiction. This is because something has to fill the love-void in our hearts, and if it’s not one thing, it will be another.
What about cutting or self-harm?
Cutting or self-mutation is a special type of addiction, where there’s a need to either release pain in a person’s heart or the person believes that they deserve to be punished for their failures. In these cases, the person certainly has an issue receiving the love that God has for them but there’s another type of root that needs to be addressed as well. There’s emotional pain or guilt that the person is dealing with that needs to be resolved. Finding out what happened and receiving Christ’s truth concerning those areas is important for their healing. Any bondage involving guilt will need to be resolved through realizing and accepting the work of Christ on the cross for that person and they will likely need spirits of guilt, condemnation, self-hate, etc. driven out in Jesus’ name. Again, getting the person to see themself for who they really are in Christ, forgiven, loved, and blessed, is crucial to lasting freedom from self-hate issues.
See yourself as lovable!
The key in uprooting most addictions is to deal with the underlying issues which are limiting their capacity to freely receive love from God and others, along with dealing with any self-worth issues by establishing an understanding of your true identity in Christ. Coming to a place where you believe you are lovable is key to receiving love in general, so dealing with self-worth issues is an important key to breaking down the walls which keep us from feeling loved. The only way to obtain a true sense of worth and value is to get a revelation of how much you are loved by God the Father, who sent His son Jesus to die for you.
Discovering the root
To discover the root of your addiction, you need to get real honest with yourself. Many times we are in denial about the pain we are feeling. Figuring out what is the root of a bondage is all about asking the right questions, and that is especially important when it comes to uprooting an addiction. Why don’t we feel loved? Do we feel unlovable? (Let’s stop right there; if we feel unlovable, then you’ve just discovered a self-worth issue that will need to be addressed.) Are you passionate about Jesus? If not, then something in hindering you from realizing how much you are loved by Him who died for you. Do you see yourself as forgiven and loved by the Father because of what Jesus did for you?
As you discover emotional wounds, you’ll need to forgive (others, yourself, and God) and invite Jesus to come and heal the damage in your heart. If you don’t realize how much God loves you, then you’ll need to spend some time learning about what Jesus did for you on the cross, and what a terrible price He paid because He loved you so very much. Often breaking out of an addiction is a combination of emotional healing, learning about who you are in Christ, forgiving (yourself, others, and God), overcoming self-worth issues by changing how you see yourself (in light of how God sees and loves you), and casting out any spirits that came in and are enforcing the addictive behavior. Spirits behind guilt, condemnation, etc. also need to be driven out, as they seek to keep us from fully seeing what Jesus did for us on the cross.
Dealing with the issues underlying an addiction is key to uprooting it permanently. If you want lasting freedom and wholeness in this area of your life, you will have to deal with the issues that have limited your capacity to receive love, especially the love that God has for you.
Curbing The Menace Of Social Vices
Social vices is an act of indiscipline. They are those acts and conditions that violate the societal norms and values. They are habits or behaviours of immoral activities such as cultism, robbery, ritual killing, kidnapping, smoking and drug peddling etc.
The word “vices” came from a Latin word “Vitium” meaning defect or failing.
It is rare to find a school or an institution void of social vices. This
depicts that they are found in educational cantersprimary, secondary and tertiary and the environment around us. Vices are common among young males and females, examples include prostitution, indecent dressing, robbery, cultism, pocket picking, drug addiction, examination malpractice, hooliganism thuggery, gambling, Smoking, premarital sexual activities and rape. Recently it has developed to militancy and terrorism among others social vices are bad traits, unhealthy and negative behaviours that are against the morality of a society.
Peer Group. This is the major cause of youth involvement in
vices. Students (youth) spend more time with their friends at school or at home. Due to their weak nature and tender age, they can easily be influenced. Children have high level of curiosity to learn, to have fun and practice new things, since they are born with tabular rasa thus, making them smoke, agree with the proverb that says “show me your friends, and I will tell who you are “because it shows the significance of friends and how they influence lives. A child tends to behave like his or her friend so be labelled as cowards, JJCS, uncivilised or crude. A child who move with children that loves academics can be like them in no time and cannot be lured to the short-cuts to success such as examination malpractices. Being a virgin which was once a thing of pride has now turned to object of ridicule among youth. An innocent girl will want to
experiment what her friends do and may be pushed into sexual activities in tender age. A youth who does not smoke Indian hemp will want to try it to prove that he can belong, rather than being called a Jew man. And such trend goes on and on. Unfortunately if luck run out of such novices
they go hey wire in life.
Lack of parental responsibility: Another factor that leads to vices is negligence by the parents or broken home. Most children that engage themselves in vices are from broken homes.
Lack of parental care, supervision and attention can make a child
engage in social vices. Children from the permissive and uninvolved
parenting styles fall mostly into these traps. They move with wrong
people, their movement are not queried, their academic progress is not being followed up. Freedom to do anything without being probed affect children negatively. Negligent of parents can make the wards turn to their friends for love, emotions, care, advice that can lure them into deadly acts. An abandoned girl looks up to an opposite sex for love and affection, vice versa. Some maids, house helps, family members and
neighbours who are always around the children in the absent of parents can introduce these to children like sexually, warn and threaten them not to tell anyone. Even if the bold ones are determined to confide in their parents, they (the parents) may
be too busy or occupied to listen and see through things.
This lack of indiscipline which interfere with the teaching and learning process, manifest itself in various ways including bullying, vandalism, alcoholic and substance
abuse, truancy, inability or
unwillingness to do homes works.
Causes of indiscipline in secondary schools in Nigeria to include authoritarian methods, bad staff behaviours, harsh schools rules, poor communication results, lack of adequate schools facilities, influence from home and society
FACTORS THAT NECESSİTATE INDISCIPLINE IN SCHOOL
Authoritarian metbod. According to Chandra Hawley (1996) This method of authoritarian is typical when a leader places firm limits and controls on the students. Students will often have assigned seats for the entire term. The desks are usually in straight rows and there are no deviations. Students must be in their seats at the beginning of the class and they frequently remain there throughout the period. This teacher rarely gives hall passes or recognizes excused absences. Students do not interrupt the teacher. In this method, since verbal exchange and discussion are discouraged, the authoritarian’s students do not have the opportunity to learn and, or practice communication skills This teacher prefers vigorous discipline and expects swift obedience Failure to obey the teacher usually results in detention or trip to the principal’s office.
In this class room, students need to follow directions and not ask why. Students in this class are likely to be reluctant to initiate activity, since they may feel powerless. Such students easily get subscribed to truancy and other forms ofindiscipline. At the extreme, the authoritarian teacher gives no indication that he or she cares for the students. Mr Doe is a good example of an authoritarian teacher. His students receive praise and encouragement infrequently, if at all. Also, he makes no effort to organise activities such as field trips etc.
Bad staff bebaviour: These are behaviours that work against the
progress of the school authority and its running. Behaviours such as being reluctant to the duties assigned as a teacher, the sour apple as a teacher, the sour apple, which are staff that bad- mouth the school using negative applications, they also poison the minds of other staff in their actions. Another bad bchaviours is eyeservice, which is the trickish way of doing work for just lip services and instant encomiums. The disappearing act is also typical of bad behavioural staff. Others are illegal activities in the school such as defying a young female studenus by male teacher.
Harsh scbool rules. This looks synonymous to the authoritariarn
teacher, but in this case the whole school is affected. It tends to be too firm and control prone where even games are rarely common and students become timid, but become undisciplined because of lack of civilization. Homosexuality and lesbianism become rampart because of harsh school rules. Inferiority complex and introverts are mostly developed among such school srudents.
Lack of adequate scbool Facilities. This is a situation whereby a school lack all necessary learning materials such as equipped laboratories, library and other needful that enhance learning or the things that make learning casy. The lack ofit may make students to divert their attention to other acts due to because of it.
Poor communication A situation where there is a poor communication between the teachers and the students, the students are likely to be un-oriented, as such, they indulge in wrong acts because they are uninformed e.tc. The students need a good and upgraded communication skills for assimilation
Results: Result is one thing that encourages or discourages a student in the school. A poor result is capable of making a student divert his or her attention from the supposed learning exercise into playing of truants and other acts of indiscipline.
Influence from home and society. The environment and home a
student come from can be a factor that could lead to indiscipline and insubordination. A child from an indiscipline home and society will always display acts of indiscipline as it is very contagious and persuasive in character. You cannot offer what you do not have, simple!.
How to Overcome Fear, Guilt and Low Self Esteem
Before I begin, I want to make it clear that I am only speaking of the stronghold/behavioral aspect of fear, guilt, etc. There ARE spirits of guilt, fear, worthlessness, etc. that can also be a factor and must be addressed (and driven out). However, if all we do is address the spirits but leave the strongholds in place, they are liable to return. This teaching deals strictly with the behavioral piece of the puzzle.
Feelings do not necessarily speak truth. If you feel guilty, it does not mean that you are guilty. Many times, feelings merely tell us what is going on in our thought life (or what we are really believing). If we think we are guilty, there will be feelings of guilt as the fruit of those thoughts or beliefs. It’s sort of like feeling a hot stove; feelings are meant to help alert us of something that is wrong. Feelings should not be ignored, but properly interpreted. For example, if you feel guilty, don’t start thinking “Oh, it must be true. I need to go confess my sins again and go try to dot every i and cross every t.” That is letting feelings tell us what to do, and feelings can be (and often are) wrong.
When we begin to feel guilty, we need to instead get to the root of the problem and address it with God’s Word. What does God’s Word say about our guilt? It tells us that if we confess our sin and forsake it, we are forgiven and cleansed of whatever kind of unrighteousness that we’ve committed. When we choose to believe that over how we feel, then our feelings will begin to change because they are merely the fruit of our thoughts and beliefs.
In this case, our feelings were wrong because our belief was wrong.Remember, feelings are just the fruit of our thoughts and beliefs. If we feel wrong, then it wouldn’t hurt to stop and ask ourselves what we believe. Do we believe that when a man confesses his sin and believes upon Christ, that he is forgiven? Or do we, in the back of our minds, wonder if we’ve sinned too badly, or if we need to do something before we can be forgiven? Our feelings can be a great revealer of what we are really believing under the surface.
It is important to be balanced when dealing with our feelings. I don’t think it’s healthy to completely ignore our feelings, but I can assure you that it is not healthy to go by our feelings either. The key is to learn how to discern what our feelings are really telling us, and then get to the root of the problem. Feelings of guilt, for example, do not necessarily mean that we are indeed guilty, but rather that our beliefs are not rooted and grounded on God’s Word like they ought to be.
A dirty conscience should not be ignored, but rather investigated. False guilt is an indication of a faulty belief. Is a clean conscience important according to God’s Word? Yes!
o with that said, I believe it is important to have a clean conscience. But we can only have that clean conscience when we stand firm on God’s Word and believe what it really says about the forgiveness of our sins. When we truly believe that the Blood of Christ has paid the full price for our failures, only then can we have a truly clean conscience. As long as we think that we’ve messed up too badly, or need to do something before we can be forgiven, we will live with a dirty conscience. That is because we don’t truly believe we are forgiven, and when we don’t believe that we’re forgiven, how on earth can we expect to feel like it? We can’t!
Fear is another feeling which is completely unnecessary in the life of a believer. How do we know this? God’s Word tells us that perfect love casts out all fear. For those who think that fear is a natural and unavoidable feeling, God’s Word tells us that “He who fears has not been made perfect in love.”
Got fears? Don’t believe them, but rather seek to be established and made perfect in God’s great love for you. That will dispel those fears. What most people do is go by their feelings and believe them, rather than seeing them as a warning that something isn’t right in their beliefs or thought lives. That is where many well intending Christians go in the ditch. Another ditch is to completely ignore those feelings (or warning signs), and do nothing about them. The question I ask you is, what are you doing about those feelings? Are you going by what you feel as if it were truth? Or are you asking yourself, “What am I thinking or believing that may not be aligned with God’s Word?”
Fear, like false guilt, is a result of believing something other than God’s Word. False guilt is when we choose to believe an imagination that has risen itself against the knowledge of God (see 2 Corinthians 10:4-5), even though God’s Word assures us that when we confess our sins, He is faithful to forgive us of any sort of unrighteousness that we’ve committed.
Now of course, not all feelings should be interpreted as a fault in our thoughts or beliefs. There are times when then Holy Spirit will give a person an uneasy feeling about a situation (discernment), or maybe a burden to pray over somebody that we normally wouldn’t pray over. These types of feelings are used by God as a means to communicate with our spirits, and should not be ignored.
However, what I am talking about in this teaching is feelings of low self-esteem, fear, false guilt, shame, etc. Feelings along these lines are spelled out clearly in God’s Word as being completely unnecessary for the children of God. What these types of feelings (false guilt, fear, etc.) have in common is that they are rooted in a belief or imagination that has risen itself against the knowledge of God (what is spoken clearly in His Word).
I really liked this extremely charming person while I was in school yet I couldn’t let him know since I wasn’t the just a single, After I graduated,I did my NYSC and began working,did I notice that things were so intense for me in light of the fact that my pay couldn’t deal with my major needs..my organization sent me as a delegate for a class held in Lagos here and that is the place I met Caleb, a exceptionally attractive and provocative person.
Caleb was one of the patrons and he promptly succumbed to me and approached me for my number after the seminar. We turned out to be close and I should admit that he diminished my monetary bankruptcy.
He endeavored to lay down with me yet I declined on the grounds that I was a virgin and guaranteed God to rest just with my husband…for two years,we dated and he turned out to be so attached to me,Caleb cherished me so much that he got me a vehicle worth 2.1million on my birthday,built a little house for my family and furthermore leased a lavish loft for me on the island…I began living so huge due to Caleb…he influenced me to leave my place of employment after he opened an extremely huge grocery store/restorative store for me on the mainland.
One decisive hot afternoon,I was attempting to utilize the ATM,but was having heaps of issues endeavoring to make withdrawal,and because of this,the individuals on the long line were exceedingly irritated and never saved any chance to yell at me, A young fellow approached me and offered to help,I was unmistakably shaken so I permitted him and we succeeded.
As I was tied in with going into my car,i figured out how to take a gander at the person,and to my surprise,it was a similar person I really liked 2-3years back..he didn’t remember me though..I expressed gratitude toward him and he didn’t falter to ask for my number which I didn’t dither to give…that evening,he called me and we talked for long.
Things became extremely extraordinary between us the emotions in me began developing back, I attempted my absolute best to oppose him,but it got most exceedingly bad and that was the place the entire issues began.
I swung to a liar unexpectedly that on Valentine’s day, Caleb educated me toward the beginning of the day and disclosed to me that he will lift me up by 5pm…two hours later,Somto called and said he will lift me up by 6pm, I needed to reject him,but I was so unconscious when I said yes to him…I was extremely so helpless,well, I figured out how to pull it off and met Caleb by 5pm and Somto by 7pm.
I was at the airplane terminal going for the Election when I saw Somto loading up the equivalent plane,well,did I notice that I educated in my state Enugu and Somto was likewise from there…on the night prior to the Election, Somto called to reveal to me that his family went on a get-away and he was all alone,so I went to see him that night,we talked for long until we began kissing.
We were going too quick when he ceased me and inquired as to whether I’m extremely certain I need do this,I gestured in the affirmative,he conveyed me on his laps to the room and gave me a long difficult s*x throughout the night till morning which was so excruciating yet a piece of me appreciated it,I woke up and was searching for my phone,I went to the living room and saw it and understood that Caleb has called me 24 times..well,I begun wailing and Called him back..he yelled at me and kept nagging.
I figured out how to deceive him that my battery subsided which made him quiet down…I felt so guilty,I left Somto’s home against every one of his endeavors to stop me….after I threw my votes and returned home that morning, Somto went to my home and began crying that I am offending him and he cherishes me so much,I needed to disclose to him that I am seeing someone I couldn’t..right there in my room,he s*xed me again..this proceeded till I left back to Lagos.
I began maintaining a strategic distance from Somto. To cut long story short,I didn’t have a clue how Somto figured out how to know my house,the day he came, Caleb was around,I figured out how to drag him outside and misled him that Caleb is my cousin and I don’t need him to have the wrong impact on me,I guaranteed to visit him later that evening….he left and when I went inside,Caleb asked me whom he was,and I disclosed to him that was my cousin too……so that night,I went to see Somto,we talked for long,to my surprise,Caleb found us and asked me for what good reason I came to see my cousin in a bar.
I asked him what he was doing there,he said he didn’t purchase my story prior so he observed and tailed me since I have been acting so peculiar of late…. Somto then again got so irate and instructed him to take his hands off his better half… Caleb revealed to Somto that he (Somto) is only my side nigga since he has known me for long and we are on an arrangement to get married.
Somto disclosed to him that in the event that he is only my side nigga,how come he (Somto)was the person who despoiled me.Caleb quickly separated his lips with an overwhelming punch..that was the point at which they began fighting,the securities had the capacity to deal with the circumstance and Caleb advised Somto to watch his back.
Caleb sent some terrible young men to murder Somto yet one of the young men was gotten and mobbed after Somto was shot the Guy took the police to Caleb’s home as the person who enlisted them and Caleb was arrested Right now, Somto is combating with his life,while Caleb is in police custody
I don’t have the foggiest idea what to do.